Growing Your Hair Long

How are you growing your hair out? What are you doing to get long hair? Tell me what to do so that I can grow my hair long!

When I hear those questions, I immediately seize up and my mind starts going through the tons of information that I’ve learned about hair care.  Unfortunately, I end up spitting out random hair community jargon: I’m PSing my way to BSL and maintaining protein/moisture balance with my regimen.  In return I get a confused face and begin rambling off too much information for one person to absorb in one sitting and nothing ends up getting communicated.

Below is my attempt to redeem myself for all of those poorly articulated conversations that I’ve had with friends and family members.

The Goal

The name of the game is RETENTION.  Hair grows just fine (for proof think about how quickly our relaxers and hair colors grow out) but we need to work to keep what growth we do get.  The place where we often lose our length is from our ends: I take steps to limit/eliminate the need for trims.  From October 2009 to November 2010 I did not trim my hair.  However, trims become necessary when you experience breakage or split ends.

The Plan:

How do I prevent breakage?

  • Deep Condition my hair regularly – Moisturize.
  • Protein Treatments – Strengthen.
  • Gently handle my hair.  No pulling or tugging at my hair when detangling — patience is key.

How do I prevent split ends?

  • Limit use of heat appliances (Blow dryers, Flat Irons and Curling Irons).  I never use these more than one time in a given week.  And I have been known to go months without using them at all.  The longer you can go without them, the happier you will be with your results. A nice styling substitute is rollersetting.
  • Protectively Style my Hair with Twit outs/Braid Outs, Buns, Braids, Weaves, etc.
  • When I do use heat appliances, I always use a heat protectant.  I focus the product on the ends of my hair.
  • If I do happen to see a split end, I immediately cut that individual strand above the split to limit the damage.  (Known as the Search and Destroy Method).

The Result:

21 Comments


  1. Thanks, Jen! ::off to check out your blog::


  2. Wow! Your hair went from SL to like BSL!


  3. Thanks, it did grow a lot that first year. It was great motivation to keep me focused on my hair goals. Unfortunately, I learned the hard way, that I need to be gentle with my hair to avoid breakage. I'm working on retaining as much as possible this year and hopefully I won't need a major trim when December rolls around.


  4. Not any harder than getting to any other length. It takes patience and care.


  5. Not really. Sometimes I'll take a multivitamin but not regularly.


  6. I just had atrim and am so sad, now my hair looks short. will try and grow it our again. what protective style do u suggest for SL


  7. I've always been a fan of buns and ponytails. But you've got endless options as far as Weaves, Braids and pinned up curly styles.

    I had a major trim recently so I know how upsetting it can be to cut away our hair, but try not to lament about. This hair journey stuff is hard and some times we've got to cut away our progress, but the good thing is that we can look to the future where we'll have longer lengths than we just lost. And our hair will look healthier than ever so long as we keep up our new healthy habits. Happy Hair Growing, Moshalewa's world!


  8. I got a question so i dont use heat protecter everytime i flat iron my hair.But this summer i went heat free.See since a cut my hair i have really curly hair and in school i flat iron my hair once a week and keep it straight till like i wash it .is thats still bad even though i keep it straight.


  9. What you are doing is not bad. If your hair is able to maintain its length and thickness under your current regimen, then keep doing what you are doing. Thanks for commenting!


  10. Hi Kim,
    Your hair is gorgeous, congratulations.
    Presently, I am APL;haven't used heat in 2.5 months, and I am 8 weeks post relaxed. I am stretching. This is my second time stretching to 16 weeks. I guess, I would like to know how best to deal with my new -growth; which are growing rapidly.
    Thank you in advance.
    Jeanette.


  11. Thanks and congratulations on not using heat AND stretching. My advice to you would be to do your best to avoid breakage at all costs. Maintaining a proper protein/moisture balance will help with that but when it comes to our new growth that mainly means keeping your new growth properly moisturized. Weekly Deep Conditioning and mid week moisturizing will help with that — apply it just to the new growth if you need to.

    If you mean for styling purposes, I bun and use a gel/pudding to smooth my new growth or I will put my hair in styles that blend the new growth and the straighter hair (bantu knot outs and twist outs). Also, you have the option of doing a full sew in, wigs or braids, but be careful not to leave those in for too long because that can lead to damage too.

    Good luck with the rest of your stretch and happy hair growing!


  12. I started a hair journey like 2 days ago because my hair dresser kept telling me to get a touch up every 6 weeks to prevent breakage from new growth. Over the years i was noticing a lot of breakage and she kept telling me its dry but never adviced me on any products. Basically i moved from full hair to thin hair 🙁 any suggestions on products to use?


  13. Also, you might want to try relaxing every 8 weeks. When I was relaxing every 6 weeks, I started to notice that my hair was thinning out a lot as well. Hopefully, that will help you out, Chalise

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